What Your Parents Never Taught You.

Parents are amazing, that's just it, they work day and night to keep us safe, healthy, happy, and slowly prepare us to someday run out into the world and be able to survive and do all of those things for ourselves. They taught me how to stay safe, cook, clean, get a job, work, save money, love unconditionally, and the basic skills required to survive.
Getting married and starting my life with Ben, I felt very well prepared, and still do. However, there are still some things that I am slowly figuring out one by one that my parents never could have taught me: They say your family should always work together as a unified team. and that's the idea but they never explain how minuscule details can sneak in and become a huge issue... Especially when you're engaged to your soon-to-be husband. I remember how nervous I got when we were working on the wedding plans and we'd get hung up on little decisions like the invitations and times. I know they also tell you to never sweat the small stuff but they don't ever explain that sometimes that requires you actually taking the time to sit down with your significant other and talk about your main goal. To remember that the most important thing at the end of the day is that the two of you are married, loved, and totally honest and committed to each other. The other key is to make sure you both are on the same page and in order to do that, communication is HUGE! If you don't have open, honest, and safe conversations very frequently you get lost in the little things. Along with all of this you have to remember to take time for yourself and by yourself. A night out with the girls is always very therapeutic for me but sometimes I realize that all I really need is just a few hours to myself. When you take the time for yourself, you learn to be more in tune with your body and your own emotions. Until you are in tune with yourself, you could never be in tune with those close to you. When you are very self-aware, you have the time and focus to notice changes in your family and to realize what it is that they need as well. People have needs and when you make a conscious effort, you start to realize how easy it is to fulfill their needs as well. The other key to staying connected and meeting each others' needs is taking time for each other. Be sure you have time together, just the two of you. Otherwise it's too easy to get caught up in the competition, jealousy, and drama that can so closely follow those around you.
Once again, I know, I've come up with a post that really is a bit jumbled and probably doesn't make any sense. But, then again, when do I really make complete sense???